What I wish I had done differently

This year, I am a Senior in college and everyone is talking about graduate school. Everyone is making a list of graduate schools that they’re interested in and taking their GREs. But I am not, and why’s that?

My sophomore year of high school I transferred to a catholic high school, which was not free. My parents spent about half of my college savings on high school instead of college and that set us pretty far back. I was childish and didn’t consider the long-term affects.

When you go to college you take a variety of classes alongside your major classes. My first semester I didn’t have a job, I only had to worry about school and I did really great. The next semester, I took this one class that destroyed my GPA, I’ve been waiting three years for them to offer the class again so I can retake it for a better grade and they have decided they’re not. That bad grade is going to weigh my GPA down forever. Overall, I am a solid B+ and A- student, with an occasional C+ in a class that I should’ve put more effort into.

One of my biggest mistakes was not taking advantage of internships and research assistant opportunities. Grad schools require recommendations and I’m in my second to last semester and I’ve never met with a Communicaton Disorders professor, which is fatal. Graduate schools are looking for experience, determination, and great connections with faculty.

I wish that I had taken my classes more seriously and studied more. I wish I had cared less about trying to have a 3 or 4-day weekend and applied for a research assistant position. I wish I had met with teachers, whether it was a question about class or just something about the major or career. I think one of the smartest things you can do in college is be a TA so you can get close with your professors while also recieving credits.

For those reasons, I will not be applying to grad school right away. I am honestly devastated by how much I took college for granted and didn’t put my all into school. I’m not saying neglect the fun college experiences but don’t let FOMO ruin your academic performance.

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Road Trip to OBX: Trip 3


Normally, we wake up at 3:00 and leave my 3:30 am, but this year only 4 of the OG group was coming on the trip so instead of having a sleepover we woke up at 5:00 am and met at one house. We hit the road at 6 am, we went grocery shopping when we got to the island and were at the beach house by 6:30 pm. We go over the Tapan Zee Bridge instead of the George Washington Bridge in New York City to avoid traffic.

Where do we stay? Duckingham on Cook Drive. It is a gorgeous house with 3 bedrooms, 4 beds, & a full-size pullout couch. Full kitchen, 2 full bathrooms, 3 showers (one outside shower), washer & dryer. There is also a charcoal grill outside. There is a porch on the front of the house & one on the back. They have a collection of DVDs, Books, and Magazines for your entertainment.


Where did we go this week?

Sunset Bar & Grill was our favorite place of the week. They have some really good seafood and some great salads. They also have two full bars, most of the bartenders are really friendly (& if you’re cute you might get some free drinks). This bar is within walking distance of Cook Drive, which is where we stay, so it’s convenient that no one needs to drive. 


Duck’s Cottage is always a staple during our visits. Kate & Hannah adore coffee and they have some really great coffee drinks, baked goods, oatmeal, etc. This is also a bookstore, it’s always nice to be able to read a $16 book without paying for it. Duck’s Cottage saved the day, we didn’t have wifi Sunday-Wednesday and Hannah had to take an online test for a summer course she was taking so we hung around there for a bit. 

The Beach, we are a 5 minute walk from the beach. We didn’t go as many times this year because some of us got nasty sunburns on the first day & there were other things we wanted to do. But the beach is nice because there isn’t a public parking lot so it’s only the other people renting houses on the beach. 

Walmart, this is where we did a majority of our grocery shopping. One night we picked up salmon, 90-second rice, and some steamable vegetables and made dinner. It all came out really great and was healthier than the cheeseburger I was craving. The walmart down there, along with most of the convenience stores, sell beer & wine, too.


Indian Masala, this is right over the bridge and the food was AMAZING. I personally love Indian food, and now I think all of my friends do too. This place has indoor and outdoor seating, a great selection on their menu, and plenty of parking. We didn’t sit outside because it was super humid but the are right on the water & have a beautiful view. 10/10 recommend. I got the Saag Paneer and it exceeded my expectations. 

-In Kitty Hawk there is a “speakeasy”, Grandstaff & Stein, that looks like a bookstore from the front. We went on a Friday night but it was super dead but the desserts were good and so were the drinks. The service was a little too friendly but I think he was just really bored. 

The Black Pelican, we go here every single year and dress up a little bit just because it is a tradition. But this year we found out that they serve the full dinner menu and full bar list on the deck, which also has a gorgeous view of the ocean. Wasn’t air conditioned but there were fans and it was covered so the sun wasn’t beating on our backs. You must try their pizza.

Norfolk, our friend Jessie’s sister lives in Norfolk, VA as a news anchor. She invited us to stay with her for a night and go out for some drinks. Norfolk is 1 ½ hours away which isn’t bad at all. Fun fact: mermaids are like Norfolks mascot or something, so if you love mermaids you’ll have no problem finding some cute mermaid accessories here. We went to 5 different bars. Jack Brown’s for chicken fingers, fries, and beer at the very end of our night, we went to a rooftop bar, Torch (but it was really crowded), as well as PBR which is a dance club….but not the dance club we were expecting. In Boston when we say dance club we think of some rachet ass dancing but in Norfolk they mean country line dancing with a mechanical bull. 


-Right next to Duck’s Cottage is the Coastal Cantina, they have only Beer and Wine for drinks, but they make Margaritas that are wine based, sangria, and sangria slushies. They have smoothies as well as Mexican food as well. They give you a free thing of tortilla chips and salsa when you get there, we also got their chicken quesadilla with a side of guacamole, and it was AMAZING. We took the quac home so we could enjoy it later.

Sunset Ice Cream is a little pricy, but about the same as the expensive ass ice cream we buy in Central, MA. This place is CASH ONLY, somehow we all just had enough pennies and quarters to pull it off. 

The drive home was horrible. We left around 10 am which was our biggest mistake, we ended up hitting a revolting amount of traffic. There was traffic getting off the island, we were stuck on the Chesapeake bridge for at least 30 minutes, somehow we ended up going over the George Washington Bridge and hit terrible traffic there, as well. We got home around 10, so it took about the same time both ways (I think the Tapan Zee adds some time) but the traffic made it seem so much worse. Also, I’m an anxious asshole and drove for 9 of the hours because 1) I don’t love when other people drive my car and 2) I am such a backseat driver.

Quick Tip: Easy Lip Scrub

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So I was Pinteresting DIY Lip Scrubs and they all require at least 4 ingredients & a mini mason jar for aesthetic. I really wanted to wear a matte lipstick (colourpop’s ultra blotted lips) the other day and my lips were not prepared.
I found that mixing a little bit of honey and brown sugar does the trick or even just brown sugar. The honey is supposed to be moisturizing while the brown sugar exfoliates. It’s quick and you probably have both of those things in your cupboard. I only mixed enough for one use so that I wouldn’t need to store it.

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How to: Choose a College



You’re a sophomore in high school & your guidance counselor is advising you to start looking into colleges
. You can’t even drive and you’re trying to decide where you should spend the four most important years of your life (at least that’s what it feels like). There’s approximately 1,800 4-year universities in the United States, what are the chances you choose the “right one”. When you’re 16 you probably don’t even know what major you’ll end up studying. That is why it’s important to take advantage of websites like collegeboard.org. These websites usually have lists of college majors, what they entail, and what you can do with them after college. Here are some tips on how to choose a college….

  • Do you want to be close or far from home? For instance, I wanted to be close to home so I only looked in New England, mostly Massachusetts 
  • Do you want to go to a large campus or a smaller campus? I go to UMass Amherst and the class of 2018 has around 4,000 kids where Keeene State only has that many students total. It takes me 15 minutes to walk across campus and it takes my sister (Keene) about 5.
  • Are you looking for co-ed or not? I’ve noticed that a lot of Catholic colleges segregate dorm floors by gender but their classes are co-ed. Or there’s Smith in Northampton that is only girls
  • Are you looking to be in an urban area or more of a rural area? UMass is Western, MA which is much different than a school in Boston. When I didn’t have a car I’d either take a Peter Pan bus home (or if you’re not from MA or New York, the airport) or my dad would have to come get me. 
  • Do they guarantee housing all four years? I know the dorms in Boston are often cheaper than living in an apartment or your own, especially one close to school.
  • Do they have a variety of majors? You want to be able to explore alol sorta of subjects and classes while you’re in school to see what you really enjoy studying and doing.
  • Will you need a car? Not all schools allow their students to have cars
  • Remember: every school can be a party school if you want it to be. Or if you want to be more low key then you can totally find that at any school too. 

Next

  • Make a list of 5-10 schools
  • Visit them. while you’re walking around the campus, sitting in the classrooms, a looking at the dorm rooms think about if you could genuinely see yourself going to the school. Would you be over or underwhelmed? 
  • Narrow down your list, apply for scholarships, look into financial aid. 
  • I think it’s important to have one reach school & one safety school. A safety school doesn’t need to be a school you loved but more a school that you’re almost guaranteeed to get into.
  • Apply, even if you’re questioning financial aid because you could be pleasantly surprised. 
  • Don’t stress too much, you can always transfer if you don’t end up liking the one you choose.

**I applied to Boston University, Emerson College, Keene State, Worcester State, and UMass Amherst. BU was my reach school and Worcester State was my safety school. I chose two Boston schools and two more rural schools just so I had the options. I ended up going to UMass because of the variety of majors, and it was much cheaper than a school is Boston. I didn’t end up going to Keene because I realized that I didn’t want to go to a college where I knew everyone, I wanted to have my privacy. If you have any questions or comments I’d be more than happy to chat!

Favorite Ways to Relax

Every summer for the past few years I’ve been working 40 hours a week (usually in an office), which means waking up early and going to bed early. I tend to eat a lot while at work, I’ve always had a bad habit of eating when I’m bored. So I’ve been trying to do different things to relax and make my days better. Here are some of my favorite things to do…

  1. I love to shower and slip into some loose clothing. Light a candle, get into bed and I like to read or watch a movie.
  2. Yoga. My gym offers a class every Thursday, I look forward to it every week. (I want to start watching videos and do it at home, I just need the motivation). I’ve even started stretching before getting ready for work in the morning.
  3. Bullet Journaling & Planning. It’s not really a bullet journal, I just appreciate and adopted the concept of creating my own layout & adding my own pages for notes and ideas.
  4. I love to take a walk, I try not to bring headphones when I’m alone so that I can listen to the birds and the barking dogs.
  5. I don’t do this as often as I’d like to but I have a DSLR camera that I love taking photos with, of people and of landscapes. It really helps you see the true beauty of the places and people around you
  6. Tea. Drinking tea while snuggling with a blanket is simple yet one of the most comforting parts of my day & week.